GENESIS 2:18,21-24
What vision do you hold for your future home and family? It’s essential to prepare wisely, grounded in the truths of God’s Word, before entering into marriage. Proper preparation lays a strong foundation for a lasting union.
- Establishing a Genuine Relationship with God (2 Corinthians 6:14-18; 5:17; John 17:6,14-16)
God addresses those who are His children, walking in fellowship with Him. Since God is pure light without any darkness, it’s vital to understand your identity as His temple. Without a personal relationship with the Lord, one lacks a fundamental prerequisite for marriage. True readiness begins with repentance and spiritual rebirth, becoming a new creation in Christ.
How can you be sure you are connected to God? When you are transformed into a new being (John 17:6,14-16), your prayers for God’s guidance in marriage will be heard and answered. The world, which opposes God’s ways, cannot provide a partner who will nurture your spiritual growth. Anything worldly offered to a believer is ultimately harmful, as Satan and sinners belong to the world’s darkness.
- Seeking God’s Guidance Through Prayer (Proverbs 19:14; Jeremiah 29:11-13; Matthew 7:7-11; Proverbs 18:22)
A wise and joyful spouse is a blessing from the Lord, much like salvation, sanctification, and a renewed heart. These gifts come through earnest prayer, and so does the blessing of a godly partner.
Jeremiah 29:11-13 reminds us that God’s plans for us are good, which is why we must keep Him central in our search for life partners. Just as an earthly father desires to give good gifts to his children, our Heavenly Father will not withhold what is best for us.
Matthew 7:7-11 assures us that if human parents know how to give good things, God’s generosity far surpasses ours.
Proverbs 18:22 declares that a good spouse is a divine gift. Ensure your heart is free from idols and anchored in love for God, trusting Him to provide the perfect partner.
- Maintaining Righteousness as a Shield (Isaiah 54:17; 1 Corinthians 10:31; 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22)
Living righteously before God is non-negotiable when seeking a life partner. Ignoring biblical principles in this pursuit only invites harm. Righteousness serves as a protective barrier against poor decisions, spiritual attacks, and worldly influences. As you prepare for marriage, seek God’s protection to secure the best outcome.
Righteousness, granted through grace and faith, guards you from all forms of evil. During courtship, this divine protection is crucial. Your wedding and relationship should honor God, not conform to worldly standards that oppose Him (1 Corinthians 10:31). Every step-from dating to wedding preparations-should glorify God, who will guide you to the right spouse.
1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 urges us to “Test everything; hold on to what is good. Avoid every kind of evil.” Be discerning about the advice you accept and steer clear of anything that even appears wrong.
- Building a Thriving Partnership for a Flourishing Family
Marriage is a journey of continual growth. Your love for each other, joy in the relationship, spiritual hunger, and dedication to God’s work should all deepen over time. Two united individuals can achieve far more than one alone. View your marriage as a divine gift designed to propel you forward in every dimension of life.
Health and well-being should also improve in marriage. If you were healthy before, your union should enhance your vitality, not diminish it. Strive to grow stronger physically, emotionally, and spiritually together.
- Fostering Righteous Fellowship in a Loving Home (Ephesians 5:1-5,25; Philippians 2:3)
Your home should radiate grace and kindness, evident to all who enter. Marriage requires new habits: communicating plans before leaving, managing finances with mutual respect, and treating each other with consideration. Transparency is key-share openly with your spouse and never treat them as a mere occupant of your house. Love in marriage is both practical and sacrificial.
Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church, giving themselves fully and selflessly (Ephesians 5:25). This mutual devotion forms the heart of a godly marriage.